Swipe Right On Yourself
Single, married, or in-between; choose yourself. Choose to look at yourself in the mirror (figuratively), and maybe literally to some degree, long enough to see the pieces of you that need to be brought back to life, redeemed, strengthened, healed, and remembered.
Whether you're a free agent, hitched, or dazed and confused, I encourage you to choose yourself (again or for the first time), and trust God with the roll-out. Putting yourself first, as you pursue healing and wholeness, will make you a better person/prospect/partner/parent.
If you're bored, a mate won't fill your lack of ambition. If you don't have a vision, a wife can't see for you. If your health is shot, your husband can't lift weights for you. If you're hurt, a spouse can't heal your trauma wounds. Loved ones can walk alongside you as you face hard things, but it's you who has to take radical ownership of the pieces of your life that are out of alignment. To err is human, but to wallow in prolonged victimhood is a choice, and we all have the power to choose differently.
In the last year I've flipped my world inside out in attempt to cultivate a renewed vision for my life; one that isn't dictated by inverted cultural norms, motivated by fear or scarcity, and influenced by the [perceived] expectations of others, but my own heart. I made hard moves; retired, moved, left my cozy home, faced hard music, cried ugly tears, shared humbling truths... My less travelled road has been a trip, but I wouldn't change it! #nopainnogain
The tools you acquire as you work and rework the soil of your own heart will become invaluable in the other relationships of your life. Doing the work will not only attract the kindred heart you're longing for, if you’re solo and desiring companionship, but it has the power heal the relationship you're in with the one you chose back when.
Life isn't 'over' at thirty-six, or fourty-three, or sixty-five because you're not where you thought you would be. It's 'over' because that's the hopeless word you chose to define it, so it stopped blooming. Start doing hard things, stop making excuses, and keep showing up. That's how you change your reality.
